Rania asks: I'm 51, postmenopause. My husband and I have a blended family with 5 children under the age of 22 living at my home. Lately, my lack of sexual desire is starting to wreak havoc on our intimate relationship. Help!
My reply: WOW Raina! Thank you for asking this question--because I can guarantee you are not alone.
I mean, I know you are not alone because there are 7 adults living in your house 😉 …but I also mean you are not the only one challenged with fluctuating or declining sexual desire and wondering what to do next. A lot of us feel like the “batteries” are drained.
I have good news though:
New York Times best-selling author, Emily Nagoski (author of “Come as You Are”) sat down with Menopause Chicks earlier this year to discuss her new book, Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections!
Emily Nagoski is a sexual health researcher and author. Her first book "Come As You Are" changed millions of lives. Her second book, "Burnout" co-written with her twin sister was a gamechanger for MY life. And her newest book was inspired by her own sexual journey with her own partner. It's science, it's art, and Emily's personal experience will help to inspire yours. The response to her content has been amazing + I have a {very limited} number of e-copies of Come Together for you here. Includes replay of interview with Emily + additional resources from Dr. Lori Brotto & Dr. Carolin Klein too. Get your COME TOGETHER download here.
If you can, try to stop thinking of desire as an on-off switch; as something “you have” or “don't have.”
Instead, try to think of it as a sliding scale, like happiness--which is definitely a sliding scale: some days we could be a “2” and other days, we might be a “9 or 10!” Dr. Lori Brotto taught me this here: Listen to her explanation.
She also taught me how keeping my own name at the top of the list (and I realize that might be challenging for you--but it's essential… even if you can walk in nature for a few minutes each day, or practice some sort of mindfulness activity you love)…this can be a GAMECHANGER!
The work of Dr. Lori Brotto and her team the at the UBC Sexual Health Research lab has been instrumental in guiding my own sexual health + what I share via MenopauseChicks.com I invite you to read this article featuring Dr. Brotto and check out her book called Better Sex Through Mindfulness. It's evidence-based and continues to help thousands!
As I said, this is a question and topic many women in my community want to prioritize, so thank you for asking it today!
Limited quantities of the COME TOGETHER e-book & exclusive fireside chat with best-selling author, Emily Nagoski. Tap here to download yours.
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